Wednesday, April 22, 2015

HEAD GAMES: MENTAL PREPARATION FOR DANCE


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HEAD GAMES: MENTAL PREPARATION FOR DANCE


 Ever had one of those moments where you’re about to dance and your mind totally blacks out?   In rehearsal, you’re not sure if you remember the choreography that you’ve known for ages. Or maybe you’re   in the wings waiting to go on and can’t even recall how the song you chose goes?  The panic is indescribable and very real…until the music comes up.  Then, as if by magic, everything is ok.

 As dancers, our bodies know exactly what to do when the music starts because it’s ingrained in our muscle memory.  It doesn’t matter whether we’re taking a class, teaching a class, or stepping onto the stage, our bodies understand why we are there and what we need to do. The only problem is, our minds don’t always get the memo!

 Or maybe you have extreme stage fright or are feeling unmotivated. Perhaps you feel like you’re falling behind in class even though you work as hard as you can, or that you’ve hit a plateau and are stuck in a personal rut.

The reason all of these things come up is because we don’t train our minds to perform in the same the way we train our bodies.

 Intellectual preparation for dance is not something that most instructors teach-or even address- in their classes.  Dancing, of course, is a physical activity. But in order for a dancer to excel, there needs to be mental and emotional technique in place, too!

 Physically, we’ve learned to dance through repetition by constant drilling or rehearsing. Through repeating and perfecting technique, combinations or choreography sequences, we unconsciously merge the mental memory of those actions with our motor control skills, so we barely need to think about what we’re doing. This is why we can perform every day tasks with little or no thought, or why we can go ten years without riding a bicycle, then hop on one and ride away as though we’d never stopped for an entire decade!

 Mental preparation for dancing is hugely important, because it actually helps your brain to stay focused intellectually on what you are doing physically. It also helps you to get emotionally “ready” for what dancing onstage, in rehearsal or a class.

 Here are some ideas that ought to help you get mentally prepared for dancing.

  Before you enter a studio for rehearsal or class, Focus on what you’re about to do.  This means completely clearing your mind of any non-dance clutter that could interfere with what you’re about to do.  If possible, arrive a little bit early, and start warming up your own. The warm-up will prepare you physically, but it’ll also help you to shift gears, providing a smooth transition into your dance headspace. 

If you tend towards stage fright, as you warm up for class or rehearsal, take note of your muscles, where they are tight and where they’re loose.   As you work each muscle, think or say these cue words: Loose and Tight. If your shoulders feel like steel, think “tight”, as they loosen up, acknowledge that they are now feeling supple by saying or thinking “loose”. This might seem strange, but if you make this a regular part of your warm up, it will become a habit, the same as your muscle memory.  When we get stressed or nervous- like in an episode of stage fright- many of our muscles automatically clench up.  If you’ve taken the time to train your mind to be aware of this, when you’re at a show, audition or competition and experiencing stage fright, you can put this concept into play and your muscles will co-operate by limbering up and relaxing.  Also, remind yourself to Breathe.  Often when we concentrate, we unconsciously hold our breath.  This can make your dancing look stilted cause it impedes flow.  If you’re nervous or anxious before a performance, taking a few deep, even, slow breaths will calm your jitters.

 During Tech Rehearsal especially, stay focused. Teching is a long and sometimes boring process, but if you don’t pay strict attention to what you’re doing, the odds are against you for having a quality show.  As you wait for your turn onstage, watch the other performers doing their tech, and take note of where the lights are the hottest and where the stage is dark- this will save valuable time  when you’re onstage for your own tech.

If you’re working in a venue where there isn’t a tech rehearsal, scope out the stage or performance area thoroughly.  You’ll want to look for lighting, but also other things, like a uneven floor surfaces and possible areas of danger, such as cords, musical equipment or sound monitors on the stage.  Also look for the best places to enter and exit the stage smoothly.


Observation is a powerful tool. It’s something you can do with your eyes in class, and with your mind’s eye before a performance. In a class or workshop, watch the instructor demonstrate combinations or choreography before you try to perform it. This is hugely important, because your brain will then have a visual frame of reference when it comes time for you to act physically. You know how everyone says that little kids absorb everything like a sponge? That’s literally what they’re doing!  They simply sit back to observe and absorb, allowing the all the information soak into their brains completely before attempting to do what the adults around them do. Watch your instructor run whatever it is you’re learning before you jump right in and start trying the moves yourself. At first this may seem counter intuitive, but believe me, it’ll make a huge difference.

 For Performance Preparation, we warm up and run our number, but often don’t address the mental and emotional aspects of our dance. On the evenings leading up to a show, go over the choreography in your head just before you fall asleep. Envision yourself dancing to it onstage and excelling at it. Connect to the character you’re portraying; think about their motivations. If you’re not going into character, but just dancing as YOU, imagine the lights on your skin, the way your costumes feels, and picture yourself looking out at the  appreciative crowd as you glide across the stage.

Research has proved that going over the movements mentally will help to ingrain them into your psyche as well as your muscle memory. It’s the same for your character work- your pre-sleep “fantasy” will allow you to connect emotionally to your characater and the  music as well.

Once you’re backstage, it’s a given that everyone’s out in the hallway with their iPods on, dancing full out.  Instead of joining them, try avoiding the hallway (it’s pretty crowed anyway!) and find a quite corner to get into your zone. You’ll notice that from the previous nights you’ve spent running your number before sleeping, that your connection will now be full and effortless.  Run the number in your imagination  a few  times, both with and without music. This quiet time will center you and allow you to re-familiarize yourself with your piece in a calm, serene way, so you can really own it once you get onstage.


Positive Self Talk is something we humans-let alone dancers- don’t engage in nearly enough. We’re constantly judging ourselves, and often the “judging panel” can get awfully vicious.  We’re too fat, too skinny, too old, too dark skinned or white as a ghost. Our noses are too large, our eyes are too small, our legs are too thick, too thin, or they don’t have enough muscle tone.  Oh yeah, and we can’t dance: our technique sucks, we can’t retain choreography, and we’ll never be able to master certain props. 

Stop that right now!

 Anytime you have a negative thought about your body, your technique, your learning curve- whatever- you’re literally wiring your brain to believe that it’s true. Would you be this blunt or mean with a friend?  It’s highly doubtful. So whenever a negative thought rears it’s ugly head, take a moment to assess it.  Be logical and rational: is what you’re saying actually a fact? Are you devaluing yourself? Why? Is this coming from a moment of exasperation? Would anybody else think this about you? More importantly, would you actually talk like this to a family member, friend or another dancer?  No, you wouldn't. We all have our moments of self-doubt, but constantly putting yourself down is emotional abuse. If someone else spoke to you like this, you’d probably cut them out of your life!

 Change the tone of your inner voice from critic to cheerleader. You can’t constantly degrade yourself and then expect to perform to your best capabilities.  Do whatever you can to be gentle with yourself without allowing mediocrity.  Acknowledge your weak points, but give yourself credit for trying… and then try harder.  Be constructive in your self-critique, not destructive. If you feel like making affirmations out loud or leaving encouraging notes around the house for yourself, then by all means go for it, but just start focusing on urging yourself to excel. Executives do it, athletes do it, actors do it… and they do it cause it works.  Try it.


  For dancers, there’s almost nothing as important as getting enough Sleep, unless it’s Nutrition.  Without sufficient rest and fuel, your body cannot perform to its best ability…and the same goes for your brain!  These days, eating and sleeping well seems like a tall order. We’re always rushing around, focused on getting everything done or being distracted by  calls, texts and social media.  After a great show or inspiring class, sure, we’re all jacked up.  But there’s ten million other things  that happen every day, and they sometimes prevent us from eating nutritious  food  or getting quality slumber.

Make conscious choices about what you’re putting into your mouth, and prepare healthy snacks to bring to gigs and classes. Put your damn phone down, get off Facebook, and get into the groove of relaxing before going to bed.  We need sleep to keep our brains alert and stay on top of our game. With poor sleeping habits, your dancing will suffer. Your memory disintegrates and you won't be able to retain anything you learned in class or practiced at rehearsal. You’ll be so tired that you won’t get those flashes of creative brilliance while you're building a performance. If you’re running on empty, you  also might get cranky and emotional, which can potentially lead to diva-like behavior that’ll alienate those you work with- including show producers...and you want to be doing more gigs, right?  Show and festival orgamizers hire performers who are easy to work with and behave professionally, not those prone to  flakiness or temper tantrums.  Be vigilant about getting your rest and  it’ll make you a better dancer- and better to work with all around.

Last but not least, before you take the stage, remind yourself to Relax and to Believe In Yourself.  Whether you’re a newbie at your first performance or a seasoned pro, remind yourself that you’ve been working towards your goals for a long time, and right now is when all those endless hours of training and striving are about to pay off. You can do it!


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Tuesday, March 31, 2015

COSMETICS AND BEAUTY PRODUCTS PERFECT FOR SPRING




  

Oh, you know  me and my mania for makeup and beauty products- I’m certifiably insane! But this obsession is something most women- and all dancers- have in common.  I’ve  been test driving  a ton of  cool  cosmetic products  lately, and all of them  absolutely perfect for Springtime,  and  most quite affordable.  Many are available at   chain drug stores, target or Walmart.

 I’m sharing my current  favorites with you here :

 SKIN

E.l.f Skincare Daily Hydration Moisturizer
This is a light and super-hydrating  moisturizer, great for every day use, and rich enough to apply at night. Best part is that costs less than ten bucks, and that’s a lot of bang for your  Beauty Buck.  Also, E.l.f. makes insanely great Makeup Remover Wipes that are so saturated  with product, you don’t have to scub  them on your face to get clean, even if you’re rockin’ serious stage makeup. These are  a  mere $3.00 , so stock up and use them throughout the summer!

Rimmel Stay Matte Primer
 Another genius drugstore find, this silky crème  can be used alone, or as a primer under foundation. It glides on soft and smooth, and  gives a matte finish for hours, even in the often-oily T-zone area.

EYES

L’Oreal  Colour Riche La Pallette in  Nude
  An eyeshadow palette with ten gorgeous neutral shades, this  is splendid for every day use or the stage! The highly pigmented colors go on smooth and don’t flake, and  will create  velvety dimensional smokey eyes. The shades  range  from beiges and pinkish/lavender neutrals to rich chocolate browns and taupes, so this palette would be marvelous for  women of any age or  skin tone! With a retail price is $19.99, this is a great beauty investment.

Sugarpill Heartbreaker Pallette
If the Natural Look isn’t what you’re after, this quad-color set will knock your socks off, featuring brilliant  neon shades of lime green and  royal blue, violet and  a wintergreen, minty-fresh turquoise.  Stunning on stage, and with a lighter hand and a  a little blending, fresh pretty for every day. A bonus is  that all  Sugarpill products are  cruelty free, meaning no Easter Bunnies were harmed by testing.

Ben Nye Lumiere Grand Color Pressed Eyeshadow in Cosmic
This otherworldly pinkish blue metallic shadow has been a favorite of mine for years. It is pearlescent and can be used wet or dry. Using it dry, it creates a pretty shade of pink  that, due to the blue undertones,  won’t make your eyes look tired or like you have conjunctivitis.  Applied  with a damp brush, you’ll get a rich, electric violet tone that would make the 1970’s-era David Bowie faint with envy.  For stage, I also use this stuff on my cheeks, and to highlight my lips…it looks fantastic daubed over the first  lipstick I’ve listed  below!

Eco Tools Essential Eye Brush Set
  I adore these brushes to pieces. Whenever I’ve found a random brush in my cosmetic kit that seems to really get the job done right, when I examine it to see the manufacturer, it’s Eco Tools.  Their brushes are lush and full-bristled without being stiff, and can really take a beating- daily use and frequent washings, and the brushes still retain their shape and don’t shed bristles.  this  five brush  set is no exception. This set is  also  a bargain- less than nine  bucks!


LIPS

NYC Color Expert Lipstick in Air Kiss
 This gorgeous orchid color reads  bright pink, but  it’s luscious, creamy formula prevents it from looking chalky or garish  for daily wear.  With a slightly blue undertone, it’ll make your teeth appear whiter, too. And like I said, if you want  to accent your lips and give them a dimensional, pouty look  for  the stage,  use   the Ben Nye “Cosmic” eyeshadow dotted on directly over this lipstick, without blotting it. The powder will set the lip color, and your  mouth will look bright and kissable.

 MAC Viva Glam Lipstick in Rihanna
 This frosty red is just about the same shade as Dorothy’s Ruby Slippers. MAC lipstick always glides on smooth and silky, and this one is no exception.  One coat is sheer and pretty for “off duty” dancers, two coats will see you through a night out or a show. A little pricey, but def worth it! And in case you didn’t know, all of MAC’s Viva Glam  products  fund  HIV/AIDS research, so you can pout pretty while doing  a good deed.


BODY

Pretty Feet And Hands
 This nifty sloughing product, which I’ve used for eons, is the number one eradicator of Dancers Feet !   You can start off looking like  like Sasquatch  or The Walking Dead, and  five minutes later look like a rich lady whose just spent a a hundred dollars on a spa pedicure.  Just slather it on, and watch your icky  callouses roll off, with no burning, peeling  or stench.  It’s kind of a miracle, and also works great on knees, elbows, and your hands. Not only that. It’s a drug store product, which means it’s ridiculously inexpensive…and for dancers, it’s priceless!

Tit Tape by Shape Tape
  No matter what kind of dance  you do,  toupee tape or fashion tape is a godsend for  keeping costume pieces, bindis,  wigs, and other accessories in place during performance. This  burlesque- oriented product was sent to me by the manufacturer to test drive., and it works quite well! The thing that sets it apart from other fashion tape- and the reason it’s called Tit Tape- is because the adhesive is  round ( as opposed to  being a rectangular strip) making it perfect  to use with burlesque  pasties. It works to keep  heavy, tasseled pasties in place, and the backing peels off easily, just like regular fashion tape. Great idea!

Flash Tattoos Temporary Body  Art Metallic Temporary  Tattoos in  Isabella
 My sister gifted me with a set of Flash Tattoos during the Holidays and I was skeptical. They were really shiny and pretty, but I thought there’s be no way in hell they’d stay on through sweaty classes and shows. I was wrong!  Not only do these decals stay on looking metallic and  super-blingy for four or five days, they ;asted me through showers and a hot-tub session without losing their color or peeling. They also  come off quite easily with baby oil or coconut oil. They  come in designs and shapes of bracelets, necklaces, floral  medallions and  mystic-looking, filigree mandalas, and can also be cut up  for mix’n’match. They’re  so darn  pretty  that from the stage they look like actual real jewelry-  and the beauty is, they won’t snag on any costume pieces or in your hair, cause they’re temporary tattoos!


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Wednesday, March 18, 2015

DANCERS AND BODY IMAGE, AGING AND SELF-ESTEEM


 One hour away from turning fifty six! Photo by Lauran Hoffman


 Spring has sprung and most women are now fully consumed with prepping for Bathing Suit Season...and that often includes going on unhealthy crash diets and beating themselves up emotionally because they don't look "perfect".

We dancers  have Costume Season all year round, so for us, this is a constant in our lives. We also work in a niche of the arts where there's a much  higher degree of our culture's worship of Youth And Beauty; and sometimes, we turn against ourselves because we feel we don't live up to the physical perfection we're supposed to embody.  The truth is, we all  ought to be able to see that health and talent should be our main priorities!

 I'm writing  this now because yesterday, on March 17, I turned fifty six. Yeah, that's right, i can now legitimately say I'm pushing sixty!  And proud of it, too.

Below is a re-post of a blog I wrote in March 2013, before I turned fifty four... maybe you can relate enjoy!


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Attention... You Are Hot!

This is your self esteem call-to-arms: step away from your computer, and take a look in the mirror: you are smokin’ hot.

 In the act of performing onstage, dancers leave themselves vulnerable and  open to critique of their performances, their music, costume choices, and of course, their physical beings.  While audiences and other performers usually praise, there are those who can be harsh, but it’s your own inner critic that is most brutal.

 For decades, through advertising and in the media, women in general have been held to an ever-changing, ridiculously  unattainable standard of beauty that is just about impossible to achieve.

 It’s pretty twisted- the genetic wonders on display as the penultimate of feminine beauty are also primped, preened and fixed up by a legion of experts, lit and shot by pro photographers at the top of their  field, and photo-shopped within an inch of their life.


 Because of this, we all have been made to feel that we are lacking somehow… and dancers have these feelings perhaps more than any civilian woman ever could!

 We’re too fat, too thin, too old, not old enough, too dark-skinned or so white we practically glow in the dark!

  1991: I thought I was fat and that my face was "too round'! 
Our faces are too haggy, too jowly, and too wrinkled. There’s way too much baby fat on our cheeks or not enough. Our eyes are the wrong color and shape, our noses are hooked or too short and stubby, our lips aren’t plump enough.

We have  no chin,  our necks are too short or too long,  there’s cellulite on thighs- plus our legs are too short, too thick, too hairy or knobby-kneed.  Our bellies are much  too round, too protruding and, along with our hips (which, of course are too wide) are covered in stretch marks.  Our butts are   too flat, too round , non-existent or too shelf-like. Our boobs are too big, too small, and too saggy.  Or our boob jobs didn’t turn out right!  Our thighs and upper arms are flabby, our knees are scarred, the knuckles on our fingers are too big, and our hair is the wrong color or texture.

Crazy?  You bet!

Shall I go on? I thought not.

 I don’t need to tell you that condemning yourself is neurotic, unproductive and harmful.  You already know it.  I already know it, but I do it sometimes too!  We all do. Don’t drink the Kool Aid.

 Stop it!!!

  Dancing is what makes you happy, it makes you whole, and helps you feel lovely. It’s a passion and a blessing- it’s not to be taken lightly. Some women don’t have the luxury of dance because they live in oppressive societies, or because they are infirm: gravely ill, crippled or maimed in some way, physically or emotionally damaged beyond repair.

In the many classes I teach all over the world, along with experiencing the sisterhood of dancing, I often see and hear women slighting  their abilities and disparaging their bodies.  This hurts my feelings, seeing so many people truly feel that they are lacking or not worthy.  You  are clumsy, you have two left feet, it takes you too long to learn choreographies or you can't improvise. You feel stupid and ugly.
2013: before I turned 54... I finally like how I look!

It's rare to  hear  dancers  talking about how talented they are,what a great performance they had, or  to simply mention that dancing is a  gorgeous gift that has been bestowed upon them.  

We need to change our internal conversations! 

Time marches on relentlessly,  and  though you will probably become a better dancer in the future, you’re probably never going be any hotter than you are now, right at this moment. If you don’t believe me, look at some old photos of yourself- from fifteen years ago- or from last week- any time you thought you were fat and ugly.

What the hell were you thinking…you probably could’ve ruled the world!

Give yourself some credit, cut yourself some slack, and help other women to see themselves as wonderful too. Respect your vessel- the whole, healthy body you have which makes such lovely shapes and patterns to music. You are living art!

 You are beautiful. You are.

 And yeah…you better believe it…

You are hot!   

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